Ladie's Night

I want to start out this post by thanking Pastor Travis for all that he does for The Well. And for last night’s message. It is exactly what I needed to hear. I pray that by writing and reflecting, I can have the words that someone else may need to hear, as well. The key point of the message made me cry. “You are valuable.” Travis said something to that effect and my eyes started to water. Although the message was in regards to romantic relationships and not necessarily familial and friend relationships, I have been down and hearing that I am valuable is an incredible feeling. The message last night was titled: “How to Lose a Guy in Ten Ways.” The main verses for the night came from Proverbs 31:10-30. It discusses the Bible’s version of a good wife. The first way to lose a guy is to not have character. It is important to remember that character is who you really are; the way that you are when no one is around and in stressful situations. Being addicted to drama is the second way to lose a guy. This of course is self-explanatory. The third way to lose a guy is to be a primadonna and not work. Work in this statement carries two meanings the literal one that involves a job, and the relational work that is needed in order to keep a relationship healthy. When I comes to the literal work, as women we need to remember that anything a man can do in the corporate world, we can do it just as well. The decisions made can also be a way to lose a guy. One of the example questions Travis used in his message was, “Should I really be alone with this guy?” And since I am being as honest as possible in this blog, I am going to tell you that I laughed when he said that. I have found myself in situations that this question comes up. the last time this type of situation occurred, I knew that the obvious answer was no, but I still found myself there alone with him. Well it turns out that the very day I asked myself this, is the day that everything between us fell apart. I would love to say that things have since gotten better but that would be a lie. Someday we will be friends again, but it will take work and time from both sides. The fifth way to lose a guy is to think only about you. A woman of God is caring and loving towards other. The sixth way to lose a guy is to not respect yourself. You will get the same respect from guys that you give yourself. The way you dress and act show the amount of respect you do or do not have for yourself. We women have the right to treat ourselves like royalty. But when doing so it is important to not get wrapped up in yourself, caring for others is part of being a Godly woman. Dating losers is the seventh way to lose a guy. You deserve the man of your dreams and to not have to settle for a cheeseburger when you ordered the steak. The eighth way to lose a guy is to be weak. Although we live in a society that say differently, “being single is not a symptom, it is a season.” Everyone has to go through it. And it is in this season that you learn to be the wife you will be in the future when the time is right. A Godly woman does not lose her dignity while waiting for Mr. Right. Speaking before thinking is the ninth way to lose a guy. Emotions are a part of who we are but it is important to not let your emotions control you. “Your emotions are a great fried, but a terrible master.” The tenth and final way to lose a guy is to not fear God. Eve’s first relationship was with God, not Adam. He then took her to Adam. This is important because during the season of being single, God is working on molding you to be the woman He needs you to be. Shaping you to be the wife your husband needs. And it is when the timing is right that He brings Mr. Right in to the picture. God is amazing and has big plans for each individual. It is important to not bypass the process. Make sure God is in control.

Be a woman worth bragging about.