Relationships

As human beings we have a natural desire to feel loved. We do whatever we can to attract a special someone, or even just get him or her to glance in our direction. Sometimes we even change a part of who we are in hopes of things working out. Although I am not a relationship expert, I have been in a few, each very different from the others. From each one I have learned something. And through the pain and tears that came from them, I am finally seeing the truth in the quote by Ross Van Hoelscher:

“Don’t rush into any kind of relationship. Work on yourself, experience yourself and love yourself. Do this first and you’ll soon attract that special loving other.”

We try so hard to be perfect for someone, usually the wrong someone, that we forget about ourselves. We forget about what we need and what we deserve (and I don’t mean those low standards we typically will set). I think that we work so hard to find our significant other because we see an ideal image of love and romance in movies, television, and books. Don’t get me wrong, I do believe in fairytales, but they are not all the same and rarely ever do they follow those found in films.

Every person has a story full of events, both good and bad, that have brought them to where they are today. God is writing each of these stories. And we have to trust that He will send us that special someone, when the time is right. I am realizing that before God can put that someone in our lives, we have to work on ourselves. Before we can be who we need to be for someone else, we must first know and love ourselves by involving God in our stories, giving God control.

I know that I am very guilty of trying to intervene and edit God’s version of my story to make it fit that Hollywood ideal. But it is time to put that pen down and give God full control. To be one hundred percent honest (which is one of my goals for this blog, and in life), giving God full control is much easier said than done. Do I trust God with my life story? Yes! But I am still human and I crave to have that special someone who loves me and that I can love, and I want him now.

I pray that by giving God complete control, He will guide me in the direction of His will, to be the person He wants and needs me to be. God is amazing and without Him we are unable to reach our full potential.